Day 139 – So small yet so big

Nine weeks, six days. Day 71 in the quest to chase our little miracle

To my dearest little miracle,

I know you cannot hear me just quite yet, but i hope inside me there you somehow know that each day i chat to you and tell you that i love you.  I hope that you truly understand just how much you already mean to me.

As the days progress and the time ticks away, i feel a little bit more and more like a mother.  I know it is still early days, and the intergeek tells me your not much more than the size of a pea pod, but my little miracle, you also have a heart, and that is enough for me to know you are already my child.

Underneath my tired eyes, there is so much thought already going into the smallest details of your life… Your room, your name, i thought about your child care and your school the other day, where we may live when your bigger.  And as i had a little nanna nap, your half brother and your father played the play station, laughing so hard together i couldnt help thinking just how much fun you and i are going to have, the fun that you me your father and your half brother are all going to have….The fun that you will have playing with your cousins as well… You are going to have such a wonderful family, i just cant help being so excited to meet you my little miracle.

So much to think about, to hope for, to gain strength each day from….  Yet my little one, in reality the only thing that really matters, keeping you safe in my belly for another 30 weeks, which is a long time, but i will be there every second, of every hour, of everyday until your father and i hold you in our arms.

You are the smallest, yet biggest thing that i have ever cared so much about…

Love from a mother that will be.

Day 138 – Baby dancin no more…

Nine weeks, five days. Day 70 in the quest to chase our little miracle

WARNING, FOR SOME OF YOU THIS POST MAY CONTAIN TMI, SO IF YOU DONT WANT TO KNOW, DONT READ ON, AND REMEMBER: I WARNED YOU!

So you decided to start TTCing, sounds exciting, you and your partner get excited about getting to do the baby dance whenever, where ever, and however… right?

Right… Until you realise it is not working… Then it becomes a chore, something that has to be done this way or that way, something that is posed to one another as a question of before dinner or after dinner… Then it gets worse.. IVF, where you are told EXACTLY when to do it, and exactly when not to do it….

Then it gets a little bit worse, after the egg pick up, after the sperm collection… there is more medication… Crinone, gel that makes a ‘cottage cheese’ like discharge… I have told these stories before i know i have, it is gross, and no man would ever go back if he went there…

So you wait…. It is only two weeks after all, you think that once the wait is over it will be ok, baby dancing will become free and fun once again… No matter the outcome…

Then it comes the news you have been waiting a lifetime to hear, news that you wouldnt change for the world, news that makes all your dreams become reality, news that changes your life…

But where does that leave the baby dancing?

My story is unique, our child, our miracle, hasnt come with the same confidence as others, low hormone levels, and scans twice a week, left our doctor telling my husband to “keep it in his pants” just that little bit longer…

So i say it again, where does that leave the baby dancing?

To be honest, and i am not sure how normal or abnormal this is, i am too scared, i know it would be fine, and i have Dr Goggled it… but honestly – still scared… and no matter how much the desire to do a little baby dancing is, i am still too scared…

And on a lighter side, the thing that also bothers me about this whole topic, is eww gross, there is a baby in there! I dont care how little it is, its a human, can you imagine being showered in sperm?  Not that the little tucker would remember it, but *sigh* well the whole thing just freaks me out just that little bit… ok i lied, it freaks me out alot!

So am i normal, or am i just a little paranoid and weird to be scared and freaked out?

If you are never scared, embarrassed or hurt, it means you never take chances Julia Soul

Day 137 – IVF, no double lines for you…

Nine weeks, four days. Day 69 in the quest to chase our little miracle

I am not going to lie to you, i am the happiest i have been i a long time, and i dont care how hard it was to get here, i am here and that is all that matters.

But there is one thing that i missed out on.

Something that i did over a hundred times and each time it ended only in tears and heart ache.

Something that makes hearts race, tears flow, moments that change lives forever…

Something that i am going to do, if only to feel just that little bit ‘normal’ and to finally get just that little smile on my face, just that little giggle, just that little slip into a reality that will never really be mine.

I want to create a moment for me, my husband, and my baby, my new family. I am going to get my double lines, yes i am going to pee on a stick…

It might be back to front, it may seem just a little silly, but i have finally got my double lines, i no longer have to wish for a miracle, because by God’s grace i have a little miracle growing inside of me…. And my double lines, well they give me tears, but they are no longer heart broken tears, they are tears of joy.

It will never take away from the moment i really got my positive, the real moment that i will treasure for an eternity is the day i sore my babys heart beat… I am sure if this was a little differnet, and i lived in an alternate world, that my double lines today would make my heart race just that little bit more, but for now, the double lines give me peace.

My double lines give me the hope and faith i need in tomorrow, the double lines give me an describable feeling that what is wanted can be achieved. I am not saying that peeing on a stick is more significant than my ultrasound image, it just gives me the feeling i so desired.

A year ago i pee’d on a stick and it left me feeling puzzled and empty.

Today a pee’d on a stick and it left me feeling full of excitement and a feeling of contentment and happiness that for a very long time i never thought would be mine.

Sometimes something so silly can make us smile, simply because in our heart we know it came from something more complex.

Day 136 – I am not a dreamer, i am a believer…

Nine weeks, three days. Day 68 in the quest to chase our little miracle

I am not a dreamer, i am a believer…

I believe in my future and i believe in myself, but i am not a dreamer…

I have never really been a dreamer, i am not talking about the dream of my life, and i am not talking about “i dreamed a dream” nope i am simply talking about dreams.  I am not a dreamer.

Each day i wake fresh, with no memories of dreams, ever, never…

Until about a fortnight ago… Now i am a dreamer… and just quietly, it is freaking me out.

I now wake with vivid memories of endless dreams, dreams that i assume mean nothing, but dreams that make me think of things i never thought about before.

Strange disconnected, unrealistic dreams about people i have never meet, people i have meet in passing, people i may never meet…  About places i have never been, places i once travelled in my youth, places that may not even exist.

For a person who has never been a dreamer before, these experiences each night are strange and imprint weird thoughts and memories into my mind, they make me think about my subconsious and why i have these thoughts in my head.

Dreams confuse me to say the least.

Has my child made me a dreamer? Will the dreams become stranger, or more realistic, and do they mean anything?  Right now to me my dreams are meaningless yet so puzzeling i want to understand them….

But i know that i may never know what my dreams mean, let alone understand them, or control them…

So for now i am a dreamer….

You see things; and you say, “Why?” But I dream things that never were; and I say, “Why not?” George Bernard Shaw

Day 135 – My friends i feel an apology is in order

Nine weeks, two days. Day 67 in the quest to chase our little miracle

I have to admit that i have been a little uninspired lately, and i am feeling that my lil ol blog is lacking in a little laughter, and fun…

You see, i must tell you that blogging every day has become quite the challenge, not that i am not up for the challenge, and i tell you i will be persevering and continuing on, but at the moment, you must understand, i am just so exhausted.

Have you ever felt so tired after a very long day, gone to bed and woke up and still felt as tired?  Add in a little ‘car sickness’ and you have my not so me mind at the moment…

Pure exhaustion, it’ll do funny things to you, and make you do funny things in return :)

I am told that this will pass and in a few weeks i will be right as rein, back to bubbly lil ol me….

But until then…

And please keep reading, as i chase my little miracle….

The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong. Mahatma Gandhi

Day 134 – Wordless Wednesday

Nine weeks, one day. Day 66 in the quest to chase our little miracle

Hope is the dandelion seed you just wished upon…

Day 133 – How am i going to get through this day?

Nine weeks. Day 65 in the quest to chase our little miracle

You would think that once you are pregnant the anxiety goes away, wouldnt you?

You would think that by now i would be certain that things are ok, that everything is progressing as it should be, and you would think by now that i could just go with the flow and know in my heart that this is meant to be and will be…

You would think.

But, in my case, nope….

Some days are better than others, but today i am not nauseous, and instead of celebrating and enjoying the moment, i am worried.  I shouldnt be worried, i am quite sure this is normal, but there is that tiny incy wincy voice that always says “what if”…

99.9% of the time i am able to stop the fear, pray it away, feel fine in the knowledge that God has given my a miracle, and will look after me and George… but you know… just that 0.1% niggles away…

I hope it gets easier, i hope that i will be able to put my fears aside…  But am i holding out for something that may never come?

There are so many emotions that i am feeling today, and another little part of me wonders if that is just the hormones playing tricks on me….

Is this the way it is for everyone? Or for first timers at least? And will i find peace shortly?

We seek peace, knowing that peace is the climate of freedom. Dwight D. Eisenhower

Day 132 – When is a life a life?

Eight weeks, six days. Day 64 in the quest to chase our little miracle

So i have been pondering, when is a life a life?

This is such a controversial topic, but i was thinking about it, and it has been on my mind all day.  Maybe i am the wrong person to be writing about this, and maybe i shouldnt write something so controversial on my blog, but well, i was thinking about it, and after all it is my blog…

I know everyone has their own opinion, and i know that everyone has the right to believe what they want to believe, and to see life as they want to see it, but in your opinion – when is a life a life?

You see i never really contemplated this in such depth and after all i have been through, i think i might have a stronger opinion than some, i mean, i am one of the lucky ones, i have seen a life grow, and i really believe that at the point of a heartbeat, at 6 1/2 weeks, that, that there is a life…

How could it not be? A life begins and ends with a heartbeat…  How can something with a heartbeat not be a life?  But again, this is what i believe, and i have been through so much more than others.

I know it is all personal, and as i just mentioned everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but it is one of those topics that i find interesting, and like most topics ones opinion comes only from experience.  If you have never been in a situation like i have, then i guess the preciousness of life may not be as greatly appreciated…  But then again, that too is my opinion.

I base my thoughts on the fact that have seem my uterus, i have seen something inside of me go from nothing to something, i have witnessed the true beginning of a life, then seen it grow.  So i know what happens, i know that there is a life with a beating heart… That and what i have been through, that makes it all too real for me.

I do though accept that for some people, a life is not a life as early as i believe.  I have to accept that for some people a life is not thought about as a life, but as something more scientific, or maybe not even contemplated, so i am asking you…

When is a life a life?

The most beautiful thing we can experience in life is the mysterious. Albert Einstein