Fifteen Weeks, one day. Day 108 in the quest to chase our little miracle
I am frustrated.
The other day i had a friend begin to tell me what to do, it was indirect and put in the form of a question, but she was defiantly telling me what to do… “Should you have done this…” In another situation i was asked what to do, i answered that i would look after it, and it was done (very unhappily) by that person anyway.
In a another lifetime i used to have a friend, a best friend – well a frienamy – who just HAD to tell me what to do, after years and years of trying to disagree, or say that i would take her advise, i gave up and used to just agree to do what she said, for fear of ‘getting in trouble’.
Latley i feel like everyone is my boss, i feel like screaming out loud “why do you think you can boss me around?”
I understand authority and i respect it where it is due, but in some situations it seems that my colleagues and friends, i feel, want to be my boss, take over from what i am doing, rather than just lending a helping hand.
I feel like i am a pushover.
I understand that in some situations are trying to help, however if you are trying to help, shouldnt an “i’ll think about it” or an “i’ll look after that” be enough?
If you are my friend shouldnt you understand that if the advice you are giving isnt quite right for me, then i dont have to take it, that i am capable of making the right choices in my life?
Shouldnt it be understood that we may not agree, but just because we dont agree doesnt mean we need to have an argument…
In my beliefs a friend or colleague should understand your personality – if they respect you, if they understand who you are, then they should know that what you do or dont do is your choice… But for me it seems that people just feel the need to be my boss.
The way i see it is life is not about who is in charge, life is about team work, about helping one another to get tasks done, to get problems solved and to lend a helping hand when it is needed, to be a friend, not a superior.
Sometimes you put walls up not to keep people out, but to see who cares enough to break them down.
