Twenty-Five Weeks. Two Days. Day 179 in the quest to meet our little miracle George
I am growing to love my husband in a whole new way… As a friend as well as the man i love.
You see, my husband and i have now been together for ten years, nearly, and while last year the struggles we faced both tore us apart and brought us together, this year we have learned to be, well friends.
And i know what you are probably thinking, shouldn’t you already be friends? Isnt that the basis of a great relationship… Well yes, yes i believe it is, and we always have been great friends, but over the years our lives have changed, our personalities have defiantly changed, and well, i think our friendship began to suffer from all the changes and day to day routine.
In the past five months, the joy of what is ahead, the excitement and the anxiousness of the unknown has really brought us together, and to be honest i think our developing friendship also has something to do with the fact that the pressures of sex and ‘baby making’ are no longer in the equation.
Take away the stress of having to ‘baby dance‘, and i am not just talking about timing, i am talking about sex completly…
Because it just freaks me out completely (eww there is a baby in there!) and because of the ‘high risk’ of this pregnancy we have been told to ‘keep it in our pants’… It has at times been hard (harder for dh i assume) however i truly believe that this may be why our relationship, our friendship is growing.
At night before we fall asleep, we talk. In the morning before we get out of bed we talk… We actually talk… Something that we havent really ever had ‘time’ to do. And it makes me wonder sometimes if maybe friendship is more valuable in a relationship than passion?
I honestly dont think a relationship would be able to survive without the passion ofcouse, however, well, which one is more important? Which one will make you last the distance, which one is going to keep you together until your death beds?
And when sex is part of the equation again (hopefully soon) will our friendship stay as strong? Will we have grown together in a way that is permanent? Or maybe we will have lost the passion and it will all fall apart?
We have come so far together i can only hope that this will make us stronger, but sometimes you just have to wonder…
Passion V Friendship, which is more valuable in a relationship?
They may forget what you said, but they will never forget how you made them feel. Carl W. Buechner
