Twenty-Nine Weeks, Six Days. Day 211 in the quest to meet our little miracle George, 71 days to go…
Sometimes i wonder why people tell you – it only gets worse…
Why when i say i am tired, i get told – you’re in for it yet…
Why when i say i cant wait to go for a run, i get told – you wont have time for that…
Why when i say diet, i get told – you wont stick to that or it never comes off….
Why when i say breast feeding, i get told – oh it is the hardest thing, you wont like it….
Why are everyone’s comments so negative?
What about when i say i am tired i get told – it wont matter to you when you have a baby in your arms
What about when i say i cant wait to go for a run or diet, i get told – its good you have enthusiasm…
What about when i say breast feeding, cant i be told – yes this is best for your baby…
I know it wont be easy, i am no fool, i have sisters and friends that have had babies, i know it is going to be hard, i know i wont be able to go for a run straight away, i understand i am going to find it hard to find time to eat correctly, but honestly cant i find that out for myself, cant people people just encourage rather than put down?
Why is it that no matter the situation people would rather put you down, place a negative spin on your comments than encourage you, or simply be there to support you when you need it….?
And it is not just in pregnancy and child birth or raising a child…. It is everything!
When i was trying to conceive, not once did anyone say it was worth it (sorry i lie – i had encouragement from my sister and my online friends)
When i went through my terrible limbo land wait, was i encouraged to hold on? No, someone at work even had the nerve to tell me that no matter what happened i should keep my emotions in, dont tell anyone what is happening…
When i was confirmed pregnant, i got told – oh just wait until the 12 weeks is up….
I still get told, your baby is not in your arms yet….
Why? Why is everyone so negative? How can i possibly get over my own issues, how will i possibly keep the enthusiasm up, how on earth am i suppose to be able to do this if people keep telling me all the negative things, if every time i say something i am shut down, like i will always be wrong from this moment on, like i wont be able to do anything i tell myself i can do?
I am strong, i know i am, i climbed the highest most treacherous mountain to get to where i am now, and most days i feel like screaming – I CAN DO THIS! I can breastfeed, and i can go for a run, i can diet, and you know what, i can handle being tired! I CAN DO THIS! If it takes time – i understand. If i cant run a kilometer for a while – i get it, i have higher priorities… If i cant breastfeed straight away – i get it, it takes time, it hurts, i get it i get it i get it…
So please, just encourage me, just be there for me when it all falls apart and i need your support…. Dont put me down now, dont tell me ‘i told you so’… Be a friend, not a foe… At least tell me the good things, not the bad things!
