A New Year A New Approach..

Day 493 in my miracles life

The feeling of going round and round in circles was killing me.

No seriously, i cant take this anymore.  I want my mind to begin healing and i want to make myself whole again for my baby girl.  She is just beginning to develop her personality, to really take on board the world around her, to expore and as we all know at this age to begin mimicking our behaviors.

So when i realised the other week that i was getting no where in terms of healing my mind from my past, when i realised that my depression was still consuming me and everything that i had inside of me, i realised that it was time for a new approach.

When i began taking the anti depressants they worked wonders for me.  The anger subsided and i felt on top of the world.  Little did i realise then that the tablets were just a bandaid, a temporary fix for something that runs so much deeper.  I need to talk about my past, i need to learn how to leave it in the past and i need to learn how to be a grown up.  To release my mind from my 11 year old self and become an adult, become someone who knows who she is and where she stands in this world. To accept that my mother isnt here and that i am a strong woman even though she cant be here to support me.

And to get me through that process i need help.  I cant do it alone.

And the head doctor i was seeing wasnt helping.  She was simply listening to the ‘now’ and not helping me through the past.  Giving me names for all my issues rather then tools to help me get through them… So i decided to change.

I am now seeing a Christian Councillor and within the first ten minutes of talking to her i knew she was going to be able to help me, and in fact the the first hour of seeing her i believe i accomplished more than in the six months i was seeing the head doctor.

Not only is she sympathetic and understanding but she has a plan.  She spent the hour listening and writing and then before time was up she had not only given me tools to help cope and to help change my behaviours, but she had also layed down the ‘plan of attack’

She saw that i was a girl who needed direction, needed to know where i was headed and she gave me that.

And because of that i am now excited about 2012 and healing my mind, becoming whole and knowing that before i am 30 i will have a healed mind and be on my way to being the best possible mother i can be for my little miracle.

I am excited about 2012 – bring on the new year!

 

It’s almost time for the fun to begin!

Day 432 in my miracles life

SQUEE! Can you believe that the year is almost rolling around to its end?  I don’t know about you but the past few years i have been looking forward to the end of the year, more specifically CHRISTMAS TIME!

I was never a big Christmas girl, it just seemed like so much hassle over nothing, well i mean part from the whole this is when Jesus was born importance of it all, but i mean all the hype and the shops bringing out decorations in OCTOBER! It really really used to give me the irrates…

But that is all in the past now!

I now LOVE chirstmas, love love love it. last year i had so much fun baking, decorating, singing Christmas tunes and getting into the spirit for my little baby that this year when i saw christmas in the shops i almost did cartwheels right then and there!  I cant wait for December 1st to put up the tree, and this year my little one is old enough to understand it just a little bit more – i cant wait!

She is a poser isn't she?

In the spirit of christmas i have recently discovered that Huggies is bringing out a christmas nappy range, and when i did i almost fell off my chair! I know that we are beginning the whole toilet training business, but when we go out we are still putting on a nappy as i am not willing to give the whole peeing in public game a go just as yet!

Not only am i a huggies girl by heart – they are the only nappies that seem to do the trick for me, but now since i am a christmas girl at heart now as well, nothing will stop me from putting these cute little designs on my little georges toochie!

People who know me know that normally i HATE when nappies show, i have ruffle butts coming out of my ears, i just wont have a nappy showing, but these, these are the exception to the rule, and i am so excited about them… Now i am the lady who is bringing out Christmas in October and really getting into the spirit by dressing my little lady up – nappy in full view!

These awesome nappies are going to be available from Supermarkets, Chemists and Online, but you have to be quick as they are only available during the festive season. They are retailing for $20.00 a pack and are available in Crawler, Toddler and Walker sizes only.  More information can be found on the Huggies site http://www.huggies.com.au/nappies/huggies-nappies/christmas

And in the spirit of Christmas Huggies has also generously provided us with a link not only to their new Christmas E-book but also for their new iphone app!

The E-book which can be downloaded using this link ( http://bit.ly/vhxWay ) has some FANTASTIC ideas on Christmas planning, Christmas dinner recipes, decorations, entertainment including some awesome games for kids, some great gift ideas and even some colouring templates which i cant personally wait to print and give to my little georgii to have a scribble on ;)

The iphone app is available from this link ( http://bit.ly/t8nUMn ) and is just as Christmassy awesome as the E-book and nappies!!

Disclosure:: While i received the products i reviewed i was not paid for my comments and everything written is my honest to goodness opinion!

In my Humble Opinion – You made me smile :o)

I am a true believer that happiness shared is happiness doubled, and i am completely honest with you when i say that there is one place i know i can go on the weekend, where no matter what, my happiness is always doubled simply by the fact that there are complete strangers out there who are willing to share in my happiness no matter how insignificant it may seem.

I love coffee, and if there is one thing about myself that anyone knows, it is just how much i love my weekend lattes – heaven help you if you are the one to deny me my saturday morning latte!  But no matter the case there is one place where every saturday and sunday morning i will go out of my way to visit, simply because i just know that it will make my morning!

I am talking about my local coffee shop, Zarraffa’s Carseldine, and just how awesome the people that run it truly are.

It must have been nearly two years ago now when my husband first brought me the drink that i would instantly fall in love with, you see i have always been a coffee lover, one two three lattes a day – no worries bring them on, but on this day, on this magnificent day when i needed it most of all i was brought the drink that would redefine my love of a latte….

My husband brought home one massi, triple shot skinny latte – and from that day forth i was hooked… Nearly 600mls of beautifully ground, beautifully made coffee, not burnt, not over heated, creamy wile still using skinny milk… Perfect in every way…

I was hooked in an instant.

Later that day i went back with my husband for more, and too my surprise there behind the counter were three wonderful people who not only remembered my husband, but who were willing to stop and have a chat with us, who truly made my morning that morning, who still make my mornings each and every saturday and sunday.

Most of the places we visit, we stop by, most of the places we spend our money and our time, most places and staff i come across these days i have to say simply dont give a &%#$… We go in, we choose, we spend… We leave, courteousness is a must but friendliness rarely offered – except here, at my local coffee shop.

Each saturday no matter how busy, i am greeted with a smile, each saturday no matter how early, i am greeted by my name, asked how i am, my stories remembered, my family asked how they are, my goals verified, my weight loss journey acknowledged, each saturday no matter what, my order is remembered, my mouth barley has time to move before there is a latte in my hand, each saturday i am spoken to with joy and smiles, i am welcomed into a family – even if just for one brief moment of my day… Each saturday morning no matter what i feel a sense of overwhelming happiness – all because of a visit to my coffee shop.

These days when my husband offers to get me a latte, i tell him to wait for me simply because i want to go and see the smiling faces behind the counter, simply because i know even if i am in the most foul mood, even if i am looking my worst, feeling my worst – i will feel better because i have visited my friends at my local coffee shop Zarraffa’s Carseldine.

To Candice, Ralph & Denise, thank you for making my saturday mornings what they are, for always having a smile, for always caring, and for ALWAYS making the best coffee, i swear on my life if i ever move, i will be driving to carseldine just to see your beautiful faces each and every weekend :)

Thank you.

 

In My Humble Opinion – You made me frown :o(

Many of you heard brief outbursts of unhappiness from me over the past six months in regard to the gym i used to attend.  I am sorry to say that i left that gym i loved so much for so long, and even more sorry to say that they treated me wrong. When i sent a letter to explain my position to the owner i heard nothing, no contact no acknowledgment of this letter… Nothing.

I am publishing this letter not because i didnt get my money but for the simple reason that i heard NOTHING back from the owner, not a call not an email, nothing.  I will never EVER endorse or recommend this gym or club ever again, in fact if someone asks me about it i will tell them that if they are looking for people who are friendly, if they are looking for a club where you feel a part of something – this is not the club, these are not the people who will treat you with the respect you deserve.

Terry Cooper
Club Coops Owner
751 Beams Rd Carseldine
Brisbane Queensland
Australia

Dear Sir,

I am not extra ordinary, I live my life the only way I have been brought up to live it – openly and honestly, I do what I can for others and as hard as it may be I like to believe the best in people, trust people, and give people the respect they deserve.

But it seems in this case it hasn’t paid of, it seems that in this circumstance even through politeness and courtesy, giving not only a second chance, but a third, fourth and fifth chance wasn’t good enough, wasn’t the right thing to do, being open and honest didn’t rectify the situation nor bring me any just result when I polity opted out.

I know you know the situation from your side, but as you know there is always two sides of the story, and this sir is my side, this sir is why on Wednesday 18 May the manager of your club made a young mother cry, and why I have decided to leave, why after 4 good honest years you will not see my smiling face anymore, why after four good years you will never hear me recommend or talk about your club or gym again.

For three years I woke each day at 5am, drove to your club and at 5.30am on the dot I would be on the treadmill running, on the cross trainer sweating, or on the rowing machine trying to beat my last stroke per minute rate, the machines weren’t that crash hot, they weren’t the best out there, but the staff were friendly, the manager would always smile, and the trainers would always stop for a minute and say hello, how are you.  When it comes to going to the gym I am not the ‘chattiest’ exerciser in the world, I go I train and I leave, I get it done and I get out of there.  For three years even though I wasn’t a chatty gym goer I still felt like I belonged and I still felt like someone gave a dam when I showed up…. But that all changed when management changed.

The gym closed down, the old machines were replaced by new ones, the floors redone – the gym looked great, I was excited and I began the new year in the new look gym enthusiastic about the days ahead.  That was until the staff changed, no longer did I get a hello, no longer was there enthusiasm about having the gym raring to go at 5.30am, no longer did I feel like anyone cared that I was there, sure the gym ‘looked’ good, and sure the trainers fit the ‘gym appearance’ but apart of me felt like no one really cared anymore, no one said good morning with a smile.  Somewhere inside of me I still thought that it would get better, that the new trainers just needed a moment to settle in and get to know everyone, so I signed on for another 15 months.

I took time off, I had my baby and when finally I got the all clear from my doctor once again I was excited about my return, I was thrilled to be going back to old friends, to have somewhere that would support me while I lost my 15kg of ‘baby weight’.  But it wasn’t to be.  I began in the afternoons where sometimes I would get a hello from the lovely ladies at reception, but where most of the time I was lost in the crowd, so I decided to change back to the mornings a time where I knew my ‘gym friends’ were going to be there for a little chat, at a time that more suited me and how I liked to exercise.

With a baby this was hard, I had to organise my time so that it worked in with my husbands, so that he could still leave for work on time and so that my babies routine could stay the same, I knew that 30 minutes of training in the morning is enough, I am bright and fresh first up so I can kick these kilos away and be home by 6am for my baby and husband.  But again, it wasn’t to be.  Instead of opening each and every morning at 5.30am with enthusiasm and excitement for the day ahead your trainers would be late, and if not late turning up in the car park at 5.30am dragging their feet, shuffling along heads down sighing to the fact that 10-15 people were annoyed that they were not already in the gym working out.

I sent an email, I explained my thoughts, and it was my opinion that a gym should not be opening 5-10 minutes late; it should be open and ready to go at 5.30am.  I ask you now sir, just as I asked the manager back then, if a coffee shop states a 5.30am open time – you expect a coffee at 5.30am -right?  The barrister will not turn you away at 5.30am and say “sorry the coffee machine is not hot yet” no they get there 5-10 minutes early and open the shop ready for opening time – I would expect the same of a gym.  Do not get there at 5.30am for a 5.35am start, get there at 5.25am with enthusiasm and be raring to go with a smile at 5.30am, I don’t think that is a tough ask.

The email was read, and I was addressed in person, we had a wonderful chat and I thought that the situation would be rectified… And once again I say – it wasn’t to be.  No one was enthusiastic, everyone seemed grumpy, the attitude from the trainers at 5.30am seemed to be “humph, why do I have to be here?” and it happened again – the gym not opening on time, my standing in a car park of people wondering when the gym would be open, wondering if I would get a work out in before I had to be home at 6am.  I called up, I was polite, I said it was unacceptable, my complaint was heard and once again I was told it would be rectified.  But again sir I say, it wasn’t to be… No no no… It happened again, and again and again… I even heard one of the excuses to be “there was traffic” now before I say something will regret I would like to know sir, in whos’ world is there traffic at 5am, and did you seriously accept this as an excuse?

Last Monday I sent my final email, I said it wasn’t good enough, I had had enough, how could I stand there in the cold wondering if the gym would be opened on time, how could I wake up each morning wondering if I would be home on time for my baby, for my husband to be at his job in time?  How could I live my life not knowing if the one thing I loved doing each day, the thing that I had saved up for, spent my money on, was going to be available for me?  It wasn’t fair, it wasn’t the way it used to be, and I had had enough, I didn’t want to deal with that anymore, I just wanted to know that one thing could be constant – a 5.30am start.

Sir, my email was ignored, I was ignored, and honestly that made me even more fed up, that made me begin to think that maybe my business deserved to be elsewhere… And to be honest I have NEVER in four years even thought to look at another club, NEVER in four years have I even googeled gyms in the area… Not until finally my husband told me that maybe I should look elsewhere, that clearly this situation was making me unhappy…

So on Monday, one week after my email, I called the manager and told him enough was enough I wanted out, and I wanted a part refund of my membership that I had so readily handed over not so long ago when I thought things would be just great.  He was understanding once again.  I said that I had been patient, I had been understanding, and I had accepted the excuses time and time again, but now I had had enough, it wasn’t good enough for me.  Your manager then told me he would have to get back to me, I figured this fair enough and told him I would expect his call on Tuesday morning.

Tuesday morning came and went, I called – no return call.  Tuesday afternoon came and went, I called – no return call.  Tuesday evening I went to the gym – the manager was sick… Two calls, a day of waiting for a call, and no one told me he wasn’t there… Proof to me that once again, no one cares about the girl who paid in advance, you have my money, so who cares?

I tried once again on Wednesday 18 May.  I called, and called and called, and finally I got a call back – no refund.  The excuse being ‘if we refund for you, we have to refund for everyone else’

This time I got mad, I was mad, I was furious, I said things I didn’t mean, I turned into a person who I am not, simply because I felt that giving your club the benefit of the doubt for five months brought me to nothing, that being patient and giving your club a second chance over and over and over got me no where.

I don’t care about ‘the other members’ that have paid up front; I care about the six months of membership I am out of pocket.  I care that even though time and time again YOUR CLUB failed to be open at the contracted 5.30am time I seem to be the one that suffered, and not just financially, not being there at 5.30am affected MY workout time, the only time I have to myself, the ONLY 30 minutes a day I get for me… My time is precious and THAT is what you were taking from me, that is why I care, that is why I have chosen to leave.

I don’t want free time at your gym, I don’t want my membership extended, I don’t want to be a part of an unreliable club, of a club that I don’t know for sure will be open on time.  I don’t want to be a part of a club that doesn’t care, that lets its staff members literally drag their feet into the club with no motivation or enthusiasm I want my money back, I dont want to be apart of your club anymore, I just want to go without fuss so that each morning I can wake up knowing that the gym I choose to attend will be open come rain hail or shine, or be as it may traffic at 5am…

Sir, I ask you to have a heart, to think about who is at fault here, to realise that what I am asking is not unreasonable – but acceptable, and to think that if your reasoning for not refunding my money is simply because ‘everyone else will want a refund’ then there is something SERIOUSLY wrong with your club – if your entire database wants out, then obviously there is a problem, a problem that should have been rectified the first time I complained.

I am not extra ordinary but in my humble opinion I deserve to be treated better than less than ordinary, I deserve a part refund for the time I will no longer be attending your club.

Kind Regards,

 

Cheryl Schull