Day 433 in my miracles life

I have made the decision to take a step back.

I always do this, i always put to much pressure on myself and end up becoming a mess.

I was doing so well, and then… and then this morning i fell apart, i fell apart in a way that i am not proud of.  I knew it was coming, i just knew it – sleepless nights, the feeling that i needed to cry but couldnt, anger, resentment, frustration, and the sadest part – lack of “play time” with my lovely… I have wound up once again in a world of my own and this morning i broke down.

I wish i knew how to fix this for good, and i wish i could instantly make myself happy again, but the truth is i cant and from all that i have learned over the past 5 months is that it takes time and that i somehow HAVE to be easier on myself.

So as such i am taking a step back from potty training.  I will continue, but i will also take the pressure off myself and of course of my george by letting her wear nappy pants.  As much as they say you shouldnt start and stop over the past two weeks i have learned that while she is ‘ready’ she is not that ready and the stress of getting my precious one on the potty every 5 monutes is killing my husband and i.

So for now, i shall take her when i go as well as before and after nap times… But apart from that i am going to let her enjoy being a 14 month old, and i am going to enjoy her being a 14 month old without stressing and creating this silly unnessasary pressure i have no idea why i placed on myself!

Having a healthy mum is far more important than having a potty trained baby…. After a good sleep and a LOT of googeling i know that my little one will learn in time and that there is no hurry… NO hurry what so ever.

One day at a time cheryl… One day at a time!

Day 424 in my miracles life

The big question… When to begin the big TT?!

I am talking about toilet training… When do you know? How do you know? What is right and what is wrong? So many questions and like everything in parenting EVERYONE has an opinion, every one else’s way is the right way…So what to do, what to do?

Well we have decided to screw the rest of the world and start early, get in there and get it over with

Why you ask?

Well, you see it all started a few weeks back when i was strolling through the markets and came across a lady promoting a toilet training dvd pack.  Now i am not normally the one to stop and talk to people like this or about things like this, but i was curious.  So i stopped and had a wonderful talk with the lady.  Now call her a good sales woman or call me a sucker, but the method she was promoting sounded promising and something that i could take on board.  I am good with instruction and following a set proceedure.

So i bought the pack and watched the dvd and decided that come christmas when DH was home from work we would start.

But, as it so had it my little lady had ideas of her own.

I have heard people say that the child will let you know when they are ready and for a long time i wondered what this meant, but by george (*giggles* – get it george?) by george she is ready!

About a week or so ago my little princess started following me to the toilet and sitting on her potty when i sat on the loo. Then who knows how it happened or when it happened, but when we would say you have done a wee (or poo) she would run to her room and hand us a nappy.

So we decided as a couple to bite the bullet and just go for it.  I mean, what harm could it bring? Maybe just a few wee’s and poo’s on the floor?

So last saturday it began.  We said bye bye to the nappy  – no seriously george and i stood in her room and said bye bye to the nappy and hello to the undies.

And i wont say its easy, and i wont say that she gets it… But we are working on it, and i know from many many other things she had learned it is simply about perseverance and repetition…

So what exactly are we doing?  Read it here!

Day 424 in my miracles life

The DVD i bought is here, i have watched made notes and come up with our own little system and style that suits our family and most importatnly that i think suits my little lady.

We have set up the laundry as a little bathroom area for the lady.  She has her own potty and beside the potty on the wall is a routine chart (for me and dh to write down her wee habits) a game board and stickers.

What we are doing is really quite simple.

When she wakes up in the morning and after her naps, we sit her on the potty.

During the day she wears undies, not pull ups not nappy pants, just undies… That way she knows when she has done a wee (most of the time because she slips over it!) And we take her to the potty whenever we go or just every 15-20 mintues until we get to know her routine.  To get her to the potty without distress we make a game of it, at the moment it is race mommy to the potty and see who can sit down first.  She has got the racing part, but when we get there she picks up the potty instead of sitting on it, so i have been ‘leading by example’ and sitting on it myself.  Problem is she then thinks its time for a cuddle and gives me a hug! LOL

If she does a wee we get excited and she gets to pick a sticker and place it on the next game board place.  Once the game board is filled up she gets a prize.  She has seen the prize and knows it is there, cause she points to it all the time.  We simply tell her its for when she learns wee’s.

As far as i can gather she wee’s more in the afternoon – but thats as much as i have discovered so far.

Oh and when we go out she gets pull ups with a moisture liner, so she knows that its wet, and so i dont freak out at wee on other peoples floors!

Oh and she gets nappies for nap and bed time, we will deal with that at a later date!

Who knows if it will work, who knows how long it will take, but i know that everything else she has learned by example and repition, so here is to giving it a shot!

I mean whats the worst that could happen? (considering she has already poo’d on the floor and the dog ate it…)